Short Take: Friendship   Recently I went on YouTube and watched some clips from Britain’s Got Talent and X-Factor. Why the devil would I do such a thing? A simple break was one reason. Another was inspiration. Watching people with different talents (not to mention courage!) motivates me in my chosen self-development/ learning endeavours.   What struck me was how the reactions to a bad performance mirrors the different ways friends deal with certain mistakes you make in Life too.   Simon CowellJudge A may put a most positive slant on things, and give you the message that you’re okay and all is well. Judge B might be gentle or evasive, sugarcoating the truth so thickly you can’t see it, or see only a half-truth. And then there’s Simon Cowell.

In Part 1, we considered why having the right partner in a loving relationship can be such an incredible part of having a Full Life. We then looked at four personal qualities in a potential partner that increase the chances of creating a powerful, empowering and mutually fulfilling relationship.

 

In Part 2 we’ll look at another six.

 

5. Emotionally Open and Mature

 

A relationship involves emotionsholding hands, so being able share feelings honestly is very important. It ensures that no energy is wasted with one person trying to breach walls the other has a hard time letting down. Certainly, trust needs to be earned, but as time goes on you should see a gradual opening up. Otherwise you may just be wasting time and your emotions.

 

 

Some people fear showing affection and love. They have so many tests for their partner to pass before they give love that the relationship gets bogged down in wasted time and unnecessary drama. Part of it may be related to low self-esteem. But part of it may be inability to open up emotionally due to psychological factors, past trauma or history. It is a long time before they feel safe enough to do so. Unfortunately, before this happens the other is usually so drained and unfulfilled that they leave for something better.

In part 1, we stated the importance of true friendship, and looked at 7 ways to keep a friend if you are lucky enough to find one.

 

In Part 2, we look at another 8 to bring it up to a nice 15.

 

8. Don’t Judge

 

“Judge not, that ye not be judged.” – Matthew 7:1

 

There are many pithy quotations from the Bible and this is certainly a relevant one.

 

Yes, there was probably an initial screening period before you accepted someone as a friend. After all, it’s nice to know that your potential new friend isn’t a convicted axe murderer or whose only form of delight is watching the death scenes in the Saw series.

 Dont judge

 

But once you’ve ‘cleared’ your original comfort hurdles and accepted someone as a friend, and bonds develop over time, you may discover some new thing that doesn’t agree with you 100%. It might be an attitude, a value, or even an outlook towards certain things dear to you.